Comments on: Wedding Gifts

By: ravi

ravi — Mon, 07 May 2007 04:13:05 +0000

So where’s the wedding website? :-)

By: Patrix

Patrix — Sun, 06 May 2007 16:06:45 +0000

Gaurav, Nilu? who Nilu? :)

By: Gaurav

Gaurav — Sun, 06 May 2007 15:11:25 +0000

I am assuming the wedding registry list contains a dart board with Nilu’s face on it. Sounds like the perfect gift for you guys. :)

By: Patrix

Patrix — Sat, 05 May 2007 14:24:01 +0000

Neel, thanks. You'll get the address for the gift card :) Crystal, thanks a lot. I'm sure it will be. Sunil, We would love something like that too but I know how parents can be regarding eclectic gifts. Frankly, we would like to veer away from material gifts as well. But then the intangibles cannot be bought online. The charity option seems quite popular now since Shripriya also mentioned it. Sqrl, Right now we are just compiling our ideas at Amazon (reputable online store known but basically giving the idea a try. We may or may not go with eventually.

By: sqrl

sqrl — Sat, 05 May 2007 00:18:09 +0000

wedding gifts.. now we’re talking ..:) so where are you guys registering? The Bombay Store? :)

Well, I personally dont like the idea of taking gifts, because I dont like giving gifts…tum log ke liye exception..:)

but remember..if you accept gifts, remember you have to write out handwritten notes telling people how you are enjoying those gifts.. well at least thats what they do on the series friends.. what will you write? Loved the ‘taatli’.. it complements the ‘fullpatra’ so beautifully?

By: Sunil

Sunil — Fri, 04 May 2007 20:46:31 +0000

heh…..reminded me of what we did for our wedding. We had similar concerns and did not want 4 toasters and 3 casseroles. Actually, we didn’t want too many material gifts. So we actually did a few things. To all our friends and family (particularly those in the states) we sent a separate wedding card (an online one we designed, different from the “official” one our parents insisted on making), where we clearly said we didn’t want any material gifts, but we do like to travel, so travel coupons or cash for travel was more than welcome. On the “official” card our parents refused to say that, so we gave the option of giving gifts to our charity of choice (we had a couple of them), with an additional note saying we didn’t want gifts. I think it did help in cutting down the number of useless items we got. We didn’t go for a registry thingy though…..

By: Santosh

Santosh — Fri, 04 May 2007 19:47:16 +0000

Before I forget congrats and more importantly good luck on the impending nuptials :-)

By: Crystal Blur

Crystal Blur — Fri, 04 May 2007 18:30:39 +0000

Hey Patrix and Ash,
Congratulations! Hope it is a fun day for both of you.

By: neel

neel — Fri, 04 May 2007 18:08:35 +0000

ahaha … every wedding i attend , im right in a pother about what to get them! i usually end up giving a gift cert … or better still just gifting my presence :D

All the best for D-Day, Patrix And Ash!

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 04 May 2007 14:30:22 +0000

Piker, I should be done by mid next week. Can meet up then.

Santosh, I understand re but you see, I don’t more than 10 people actually using the registry. And we are expecting gifts only from people whom we can’t say no to. Otherwise, we will be having (I think) the “no gifts please” line in our invite. But yeah, gift cards would be the way to go.

By: Santosh

Santosh — Fri, 04 May 2007 12:54:31 +0000

Dude,
If you go the gift registry way, there is no way in 2-3 years you will remember who gave which gift, unless its a standout like a XBox 360. Heck, there is no way you will remember who gifted what no matter what because of the sheer number of people unless you maintain a diligent list and save it for posteriority.
Honestly, my thinking is that for a wedding, getting to meet all your friends and relatives in one place is the biggest gift in itself in these days of nuclear families and globalization. Dont stress out over the material gifts. Gift cards, zindabad!

By: The Piker

The Piker — Fri, 04 May 2007 05:40:37 +0000

Hmm… Nice cheerful banter going on here eh?

Let me know when your sem gets over. Need to talk/chat with you about some blog related stuff!

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 04 May 2007 04:15:28 +0000

The Girl from Ipanema, well I agree about the impersonal touch but it is very practical and negates redundancy. Imagine getting ten gifts of the same kind. Of course, it is an experiment…have to adapt it to the Indian context.

Shripriya, that’s an interesting idea. However, how do you make sure they have contributed? I am having a difficult time auctioning off gifts at face value for charity on DesiPundit…why would ppl gift for charity? Perhaps I am too cynical.

By: Shripriya

Shripriya — Fri, 04 May 2007 03:17:00 +0000

Hey P – First of course, congratulations. And poor Ash – please ensure she doesn’t get stressed.

I love the “No gifts please” line. If you really want to follow the Americans, here’s the latest trend – a line that says “In lieu of a gift, we kindly ask that you make a donation to XYZ charity. Both of us think they do wonderful work for the ABC cause. You can find more information…etc.”

We did that and we know lots and lots of friends who also did that. Wonderful feeling.

By: the_girl_from_ipanema

the_girl_from_ipanema — Fri, 04 May 2007 02:27:08 +0000

It’s the first time i’m seeing a desi wedding talk about a gift registry- perhaps it is catching on- I always thought it was so impersonal and shallow.
nothing personal, patrix. perhaps i’ll post about my gripe sometime..:-)

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 04 May 2007 01:46:26 +0000

Confused, whoa! whoa! No suggesting clicking of ads. Big Brother Google is listening. And of course, do you really want cents as a gift?

And of course, you are invited to the bachelor party…as long as you promise not to dance when drunk.

By: confused

confused — Fri, 04 May 2007 01:01:49 +0000

Pat,

Why not ask all guests to click on couple of ads? That should be a real new age gift. :P

On the other hand, bachelor’s party would be most welcome. Thanks in advance!

By: Patrix

Patrix — Thu, 03 May 2007 23:47:55 +0000

Santosh, much thanks for the gift card idea but honestly, I rather have them give me gifts from the registry…it is at least more personalized then. E.g. “remember those friends who live in Dadar? The ones who gave us that IKEA center table, ga! Yup! they are having yet another kid.” Get it?

Pranav, actually that honeymoon package idea did come up. We’ll have platinum, gold, and silver sponsors who will shell out for the different aspects of the trip. Of course, I’ll be willing to hold up boards in our photos thanking them :)

Sakshi, as long as you sing Mein Aaye hoon UP-Bihar lootne (Shool), Babuji zara dheere chalo(Dum), or Beedi (Omkara)with all the jhatkas included, I’ll have no problems…don’t worry, there will be plenty of daaru available. Only if we could get Bongo to fly down.

We are trying to do a haatke-reception with no line and all but now if I use your criteria, I just might be tempted to give it a try :)

Bongo, whatz with bloggers and webcast? Forgotten how the real thing looks like, kya? Bongo miyan, I am not accepting any excuse of being halfway across the world for not attending any bachelor party. Who will toss in those martinis?

By: BongoP'o'ndit

BongoP'o'ndit — Thu, 03 May 2007 23:16:06 +0000

I second Sakshi – we demand bachelor party – although I have the least chances of being present physically – but am willing to hookup via internet/chat and drink concurrently (will be a bit strange drinking early in the morning – but what the heck!)

By: Sakshi

Sakshi — Thu, 03 May 2007 22:03:52 +0000

@Santosh – I corrected it. If you type in blogpsot instead of blogspot,you are automatically redirected to the bible store. Ingenious, I say!
Really, Patrix! You like my singing so much ;)
But most bachelorette parties are maha-boring, unless copius amount of alcohol (preferably A grade Tequila) is invovled. But ps. fwd my request to Ash!
And I think Santosh has it right, demand gift cards. Then segragate the gifters, say anyone who gave say Rs.1000 gift card, can stand in the meet the couple from 500 yards and drink water line.. will either trim your guest list to say 15 people or you will end up raking it in.