Choose your Own Civilization

During my current quest for an appropriate job, I have even applied to positions in remote and obscure places like Bend, Oregon and Normal, Illinois. But I am not yet sure if I will ever accept the jobs, if offered. Having lived in a big city or at least near one all my life, I sometimes feel a wee bit skeptical if I will last long in a small town. People who have lived in the crazed fast-paced cities like New York or Mumbai find themselves frustrated elsewhere and know exactly what I am talking about.

Big cities always have a vibrant energy that keeps you on your toes and plenty of things that can occupy your mental and physical capacities. I don’t think an individual with a high absorption quotient will ever be bored in a city that has much to offer by the way of its cultural, entertainment and social life. The cosmopolitan environment with its innate ability to attract people from all walks of life defines the cultural ethos of a big city like New York or Mumbai and constantly changes, making it all the more exciting. Art exhibitions, concerts, wide array of social life, or simple congregations of people erupting in mindless hysteria keeps you guessing and yearning for more. More people also mean more people you can hang out with and leaves you with plenty of options.

But I am not entirely sure whether I want to dismiss the thought of leaving the city entirely. I may have had my share of city life and wish for a welcome change by renouncing it all. I can finally fulfill my wish of building my dream house, impossible to conceive in a city unless I stumble upon the next big idea of the century. Of course, the large house will let me enjoy my privacy and company of at least two dogs. Give me few close friends and a small family that I care to associate myself with and I don’t find myself complaining too much about too few people around. I just might be relieved by slowing down the pace of my life by, in Wordsworth’s W. H. Davies’ words, stopping to stand and stare. I think I have inhaled enough carbon monoxide for a lifetime and wouldn’t mind my share of clean air with an ozone layer to boot.

I don’t believe that any town, however little lacks character or identity; we just have to settle in as it unfolds slowly to welcome you to its folds. It may lack the immediate urgency of a city life, but then if no one around you is in a hurry, why should you be? Give me a local café to hang out and a big enough bookstore to browse; I think I will be content. Of course, you will not achieve the heights of your vocation living in a remote town but if your work is worthy enough, success follows you anywhere. Of course, success is a relative term. You may not have a glitzy social life with pictures splashed across page 3 but you can hike the canyons and ridges with your outdoorsy friends for days together with no tensions weighing heavily on your mind. But of course, the vistas in the country are much wider than the perspectives or the range of knowledge of the people that live there. Nothing against the rural simpletons but the world is much more complex than pure air and rolling hills. Dissemination of knowledge is often dictated by the flow of information through different networks, most vital being the informal connections. You will definitely not be at the cutting edge of your field unless you like to be cocooned in a self-sustaining complex like Microsoft or CERN. Precious time will be lost and you will not be considered as a part of the network in your vocation. There is much truth to being there at the right place at the right time. If you are the individual who wants to climb the rapid ladder of success in your professional life, you will definitely feel stifled out in the country.

Like everyone, I am a person with shifting priorities. Let me take the turn when I come to it. Maybe I wouldn’t have to make a black-white choice. Right now, I am happy living in a medium-sized city which at times, gives you a small-town feel if you know where to look.



  • http://absolutelee.rediffblogs.com Leela

    My dilemma exactly. I like the energy of the city but hate the sense of being crowded in. Right now, I wouldn’t mind considering quieter surroundings.

    I notice your preference for company in your countryside home is dogs, friends and family… Is that the order? :-)

  • Neha

    Ah..Having been brought up in smaller cities and towns…Many of which an average indian wouldnt have heard of…coming to a big city was ….ummm….BIG !…Sure i hate the hypocrisy and coldness of New Delhe for 2 years and i find myself crying at the thought of leaving Delhi for a smaller city in a few days….

    Life Personified !!! : D

  • http://toinkdom1.rediffblogs.com toinks

    The charm of a small town is only known to ones who have lived in it. I have lived in one all my life. Working in the big fast paced city makes me appreciate the calm peaceful familiar territory called home… only now darned builders are screwing up my serene place by building hazaar townships in it… grrr…

  • alpha

    me not a big city type..found the hard way out..by living in one for the first time after 25 years!

  • http://patrix.typepad.com Patrix

    Leela – such dilemmas never cease. You couldn’t have said it better when you laid down the order :) you reading my mind, kya? :)

    Neha – Thatz why they say, when you live in a place no matter how big or small, it grows on you and the thought of change is always hard.

    Toinks – If you call the location of your home serene, I think you would call mine (in India), few miles down Highway 4, a ghost city. :)

    Alpha – I don’t know why but you always seemed to be like a big-city gal..of course, you love the outdoorsy stuff but always thought u like to be back in the city…hmmmm.

  • http://pompy.rediffblogs.com pompy

    although brought up in a city for most of my life..i somehow think like a small city eprson. perhaps. but its true. each place has a character. one just needs to let it grow on him/her.

    and liked that two dogs part :) what would you name them? mine would be Boozo and Columnbus

  • http://patrix.typepad.com Patrix

    Pompy – I think you should try living in a smaller place and see if it works for you. More often than not, the experience tells us more than what we like to think. But yous dogs’ names are nice…I just might flick them for my future dogs. I wanted to name mine Rex…but didn’t want to ppl to think that I am crying out for Sex.

  • Lamya

    even when i was trying for a job…I would think 10 times before applying to a city I havent heard of …to move to a totally new place and again develop new friendships… but was lucky enough to get a new job at the same city though 40 miles away ….which is great

  • http://patrix.typepad.com Patrix

    Lamya – Moving to a new place can be scary but exciting too but glad that everything worked out fine for you.

  • Nemesis

    hmm.. I’m curious now:

    is your idea of a job something that lets you be what you want to be, or something that is principled, and makes you live realistically?

    you’re allowed to read the white space between the lines. :)