Comments on: Have I changed much?

By: kimu

kimu — Fri, 22 Oct 2004 15:45:23 +0000

yup, thats the plan..

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 22 Oct 2004 08:22:03 +0000

Kimu – Grad school although gruelling should help keep your chin up coz its not gonna get any easier…get back to ur optimistic self.

By: kimu

kimu — Fri, 22 Oct 2004 05:05:50 +0000

well one of the not so good changes is that I have become pessimistic. I remember a time when I was one of the most optimistic person in my gang. well i guess 6 years of grad school does that to one……hopefully things will get better;-)

By: Patrix

Patrix — Thu, 21 Oct 2004 20:33:26 +0000

Kimu – Thanks for commenting. Glad to know that you too introspect but somehow I see a hesitation in judging the changes to be good for you…look at it this way, if you have changed, you have always changed for the better coz it makes you feel better…rest all is humdrum.

By: kimu

kimu — Thu, 21 Oct 2004 05:27:44 +0000

Hi Patrix,
Have been checking your bolg site for the last couple of days…it is very addictive. luckily you blog a lot:-)
But I think this is your best one. It does take a lot of courage to anaylse oneself every once in a while and see if we are getting better or worse. I myself feel I have a changed a lot (for good?) in my thoughts and views since I came to amreeka but then I think thats just because one gets exposed to a lot more things here in comparison to des (well at least the des that was six years ago!!). Although things have a changed a lot now back home, which is good(?) for the gen X.
Was this blog a continuation of the previous one “stubborn or steadfast” ?
Looking forward to more interesting ones.
Well that was a long comment from a freshie. phew!!:)

By: Patrix

Patrix — Sat, 09 Oct 2004 00:02:25 +0000

Spaceman – Thanks! The America factor sure does count coz I don’t think I would be that accepting about some things either.

By: Spaceman

Spaceman — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 22:59:31 +0000

Awesome post, Patrix!…the similarities with my own experiences makes me think if many of these transformations are due to us being in America…For example, I am not sure I could’ve reached the same level of acceptance about things like homosexuality and pre-marital sex or even social drinking (in some parts of the society) back in India

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 18:03:12 +0000

Crab – So what have you changed into? :)

Venusian – Some say I *was* better, some say I *am* better…all matter of perspective but the fact that I have changed does not change…but I like it here.

Twilight – True. First do no harm is the norm; rest all are just context-driven changes but takes something to make that change permanent.

Alpha – No amount of sad songs is gonna bring Yogu back to you now…he is singing *Ab tere bin jee lenge hum* these days :)

Hemya – Nice. Guess everyone goes thru those changes.

By: hemant

hemant — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 17:16:16 +0000

i guess all it takes is an open mind……a willingness to accept……..a lot of what u wrote….i can associate with it…..nice honest post mate

By: alpha

alpha — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 14:38:56 +0000

Yogu!!! You have changed…You love Patrix more than me now…Kya hua tera wada? *background sad music*

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 09:43:05 +0000

how true.. I myself have made some of these changes too.. basically it’s all in what you think is the definition of “right” and “good”. With time one prolly realises that all that you thought was “wrong” and “bad” is not so bad after all as long as it’s within a limit or it’s not hurting anyone.

By: Venusian

Venusian — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 09:27:12 +0000

Well, what that probably means is that everything about you and your life has changed for the better :)…and change has mostly positive connotations. Great place to be that !

By: Crab

Crab — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 09:18:57 +0000

Funny but I was thinking on similar lines this morning today … about how people chAnge and how I ‘ve changed ….

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 06:19:42 +0000

Yogustus – So you did have more to say..anyways always love your hatke views. If you meekly accept something because you had been tolerating it for long, then you are changing for the wrong reasons. But being more tolerant for a longer time and yet accept things as they are, then thatz something. I guess we can sign off on this long but interesting talk :) It was definitely worth writing this post.

By: Yogustus

Yogustus — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 04:52:48 +0000

Now why would you think I would have more to say Patrix…:). Honestly, the reason your post strikes a chord with everyone (and the # of comments is an indicator) is because it is a common experience to all…and you have articulated it very well. Thats why I thanked you in my last comment.

Tolerance is not the word to be used here however. You “tolerate” something which you don’t approve. Acceptance should be the motto.

Till we realize that the drunk person in the bar, the beggar lady on the street, the president of a country, the terrorist, the murderer in jail…are all reflections of us…ARE us…and accept it…this learning process will continue. The more you accept the more you grow…the more you resist…the more you contract. Like a great man once said…selfishness is death…selflessness is life. A saint becomes a saint because he sees God in every being…including himself…The Perfect Unity.

By: Patrix

Patrix — Fri, 08 Oct 2004 01:55:59 +0000

Ash – Ah-ha! now I get it. All those “bad” things seem strictly off limits when we are kids but are taken for granted for adults. Dunno about you, but thatz not too bad. Being cynical about everything is definitely not the way to go but not allowing yourself to be carried away by the rhetoric or jingoism is something we learn with age. We just learn to be more objective.

Prashant – I guess, I did grow up then..but never realised I did :)Everyone goes through it but not all admit it.

By: Prashant

Prashant — Thu, 07 Oct 2004 23:32:12 +0000

Guess you grew up eh??? I mean, we all go through a phase where we are really stubborn in our beliefs… But I guess age and experience brings tolerance.. Not always though.. But its good to know that you went through that process…

By: Ash

Ash — Thu, 07 Oct 2004 23:02:03 +0000

Patrix, in my opinion, no booze + no smoking + no sex + thoughts that the above are BAD = goody-goody :-)

Hey Someone, I understand what you mean. We do lose something innocent and pure when we ‘grow up’. When we’re kids, the world is new and beautiful, full of wonder and excitement. For most of us that clear vision, that true instinct for what’s beautiful and awe-inspiring, is dimmed and lost before we reach adulthood. But to survive in this world and stay sane, we’ve got to adopt the cynical attitude of ‘adults’.
Hmm, I guess we can only hope that we don’t get too doubtful and can still enjoy some of the uncomplicated pleasures of life.

By: Patrix

Patrix — Thu, 07 Oct 2004 21:11:34 +0000

Someone – What is “ourselves”?? Did we form that image when we were 3 and never decide to change? We change for good but then what is good? Isn’t it subjective or we just put it to test against some good-bad meter? Of course, you change yourself according to your surroundings, coz if you don’t you just be stagnant and I don’t think I like that.

Yogustus – I should be doing the thanking. I thought you would have more to say but maybe later :)

By: Yogustus

Yogustus — Thu, 07 Oct 2004 20:55:02 +0000

Like all the others before me commented, I believe this is an excellent post Patrix. Very well written and pure.

Thank You.