Comments on: An ideal wife and a sold woman

By: blokes

blokes — Thu, 11 Aug 2005 07:31:42 +0000

Patrix try again, am NOT an ideal husband, rather was being my sarcastic best as I am a woman- u r the 2nd one to take my gender wrongly for granted.

By: Patrix

Patrix — Wed, 10 Aug 2005 04:07:17 +0000

Twilight, never can be too surprised, right?

Blokes, I guess you seem to have some great experience in being an ‘ideal’ husband. Hope you find some takers :)

By: blokes

blokes — Wed, 10 Aug 2005 03:25:16 +0000

Forgot the chapter on how to use condoms and not have unsafe sex with wife, specially after being afflicted with STDs or AIDs, whatever the time of night- some of those chapters need collaboration with the Mahila Sanstha

By: blokes

blokes — Wed, 10 Aug 2005 03:22:54 +0000

Ok everyone, now which unemployed rural youth wants to turn entrepreneur- Project: Pati Parmeshwar Mahavidhyaalay where Indian men will learn to be good husbands. How to treat a wife, how NOT to abuse however angry they get, how to become a diplomat in the home where both mother and wife live. How to handle economic and societal pressures by himself and not hide behind his wife’s palla… Please do contact me- I have all materials, syllabus etc. ready for free.

By: Twilight Fairy

Twilight Fairy — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 23:37:16 +0000

holy cow.. or should i say holy bahu! they make a bahu sound like a character from a balaji serial..the ones that arent vamps are all pati vrata bhartiya naaris…i wish these papers wouldnt write ‘fillers’ for articles.. :p

By: Patrix

Patrix — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 21:51:02 +0000

TTG, comparing ourselves to Saudi Arabia is no comparison at all…choosing the lesser evil is no good coz it still is evil.

Aekta, I agree that there are thousands of subtle ways in which women are ‘trained’ for married life in India but to go ahead and set up a formal ‘educational’ institute is enough to evoke laughter first and disbelief later.

Rash, don’t tell me they still haven’t learnt that they are been made fun of.

Abhishek, am glad you see the humor :) but the societal implications aren’t so funny if you look closer.

By: abhishek

abhishek — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 21:24:20 +0000

this is too damn funny… :)

By: Rash

Rash — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 18:48:39 +0000

This is a very old story that the TOI has redone. Think Outlook or someone else had done it years back. And if you go and meet the manju sanskar people, they’re actually proud of the writeups. They do not see it as negative. And I agree with Aekta. It happens in daily life too. In a subtle and not so subtle way

By: Aekta

Aekta — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 12:23:57 +0000

I don’t know why everyone is so surprised. I wasn’t. I see this happening in daily life everyday around me anyway, mothers and aunts tutoring daughters in the career of marriage. It really is no wonder that there are schools teaching these values too.

By: TTG

TTG — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 06:05:05 +0000

I hardly think one freak show school is enough to cause us to re-evaluate our attitude towards how Indian women are treated - if we’re making comparisons against Saudi Arabia. Despite all the atrocities against women here in India, they are still a million times more free than those in Saudi Arabia. Name one woman in power in Saudi Arabia - in India, not all the women in power came through family connections. But the fact is they made it., whatever the odds awere, and they are still, for the most part accepted as leaders. I am not, even for a millisecond trying to downplay any of the miseries that women in our country have to face, on a daily basis. I’m just trying to say, let’s not exaggerate everything out of all proportion and take this alarmist attitude. There is a school like this, in America (yes I use America as a yardstick a lot), but you don’t see anybody being shocked over there.

Do we really grant Indian Women equity? That’s a question that you need to answer for yourself. I do. My father didn’t. But I do. I’ll be sure to beat it into my son and daughter’s head. And if I’m still alive, into my grandchildren’s heads too. You, me, and the blogosphere, while not “representative” of the Indian populace, are still a part of Indian society, and not necessarily on its fringes. One freak show school does not change that - in fact this - and the increasing attacks on women may even be a backlash against the fact that changes are happening.

By: Patrix

Patrix — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 03:52:21 +0000

Arzan, I totally agree. We cannot claim to be a progressive nation if such cases go unpunished.

By: arzan sam wadia

arzan sam wadia — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 00:02:23 +0000

Patrix

I read the same article and was working on an entry update. I think that the institute comes in the “Wierd” category of things and is not a normal occurance.

On the other hand, the selling of the woman is sad. I hope and wish that the punishment for something like this was a death squad or public stoning. However barbaric that may sound, it just equals the actual crime, and we dont have any need of such people.

By: news views and analysis

news views and analysis — Tue, 09 Aug 2005 00:00:28 +0000

Certified Ideal Wife

I came across this article on the TOI title” An Institute for Ideal Wives”. It makes hilarious reading. Sadly, its not a spoof but the truth. She may work to increase the family’s income but she should never forget that she is essentially a homemaker. …