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Death always comes unexpected and unannounced but less dramatically for most parts. My roommate lost his ex-girlfriend due to a weird occurrence of brain hemorrhage only days after she unceremoniously dumped him to marry some one else. Of course, the reasons for the breakup are best known to the couple concerned and the only advice I could dole out to him at that time was to move on with his life when he seemed pretty disconsolate. But death is a different ballgame altogether and I simply was at loss of words to console him. Usually guys do not cry aloud but justifiably this guy was bawling his eyes out while going through the unimaginable motions of painful memories. The best I could mutter is “Shit happens”.
To be completely rational, jumping to conclusions on the causes of death and attributing it as a personal failure was certainly the path we were trying to help him avoid. We all have experienced our share of adolescent and young adult calamities but death of a loved one is always the hardest to digest, no matter how well prepared you might think you are. Death without rhyme or reason in uncertain situations is a step further. I cannot even begin to imagine the turmoil in his mind, going through the undulations of “what if” scenarios.
Self-doubt and denial are obvious signs of the shock but I guess, time does heal all wounds and only the hope of a sunny tomorrow makes your trudge along the path they call life. I hope, from the bottom of my heart, that no one ever faces such a painful experience. God be with him.
by Patrix | on Monday, December 22nd, 2003 at 7:38 pm | 
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